From NOW magazine, UK, August 4, 1999
My baby girl has conquered my
fears
by Gail Pringle
One day David Duchovny will tell his daughter he was scared at the prospect
of fatherhood. But will he tell her what name she was nearly given?
The arrival of David Duchovny and Téa Leoni's baby four months ago
instantly solved two disputes between the couple. For one thing, they'd had
differing opinions on whether to discover the sex of their child before its
birth. Secondly, they couldn't agree on a name.
On the first point, Téa won - she and David didn't know they were
having a daughter. On the name question, The X Files star and his wife settled,
after much deliberation, on Madelaine West Duchovny.
David says they had been "so far apart" on names, they started coming up
with jokey alternatives. "We talked about roles that were meaningful to us
at the start of our careers as possible names for children," he laughs. "The
list included Uniformed Cop Duchovny or Man at Bar Duchovny, for a boy. And,
for a girl, one possibility was Hooker Duchovny! Passer-By Duchovny could
have been for either sex."
David, 38, says the actual birth helped him conquer his fear about becoming
a father. "I was scared out of my mind at the prospect," he says, revealing
that, in the months before the baby arrived, he'd impatiently pace around
the nursery in his and Téa's £2million, four bedroom, ocean-front
home in Malibu.
"When Madelaine arrived, I had something to do. I could help take care of
her, which is far better than just worrying." Even so, he concedes that he's
having to take a back seat to Téa, 34, in Madelaine's affections.
"At this point, the baby doesn't even know I exist," he says. "It's only
about the nipple - and it's not my nipple, it's Téa's nipple!
"I've read parenting books and I think the biggest challenge will be learning
how to relax into fatherhood; overcoming fears about keeping your child safe
and living with constant anxiety. "Is the baby O.K.? Is she eating pennies?
Is she going to fall into the swimming pool? It seems like you need 24 hour
vigilance."
"But Madelaine's great. Every time I look at her, I just hope that I'm a
good dad."
He also believes fatherhood will make him deal with his own limitations.
"One scary thing is that, when you're a kid, you look at your dad as the
man who has no fear," says David, whose own parents - publicist and playwright
Amran and retired teacher Margaret - divorced when he was 11. "When you're
an adult, you realise your father had fear and you have it too."
David and Téa have recently celebrated their second wedding anniversary,
and he's come to the conclusion that family life agrees with him. "You can
relax a bit. You're not just sprinting any more - you're in the marathon.
You change your pace. It's more comfortable."
On the career front, David is to star in The X Files for a final season before
leaving. A second X Files movie is also pencilled in for next year. And,
in a departure from his role as Fox Mulder, he's been cast as the lead in
a romantic comedy called Return to Me, in which he's a widower who falls
for waitress (Minnie Driver) who received his dead wife's heart in a transplant
operation.
Asked if he and Minnie have any love scenes, he sheepishly replies: "yes,
but it's a chaste, 40s-style movie, like a Cary Grant and Katherine Hepburn
film. The love is more emotional than physical. There's some kissing, but
no more than that. I meet Minnie's character the first time I go out on a
date a year after my wife's death. Until then, I've done nothing but eat
Chinese takeouts with my dog. My date's horrible, but Minnie's a waitress
in the restaurant and there's something between us. It's a metaphor for what
it is that makes people connect. Obviously, it isn't because they have the
heart of someone you loved - that's the fable aspect.
It wasn't just the romance that drew me to the part. It's different from
the role I've unconsciously grown in to. It was scary - anything outside
of Mulder feels awkward. I've done one other role in the last six years,
playing a surgeon in the comedy thriller Playing God. I haven't had time
for anything else. The romance wasn't the challenge. Snapping myself out
of the hypnosis of what I've done for six years was the challenge. It's stressful
and fun - it's fun to care about work that much again."
He smiles, adding "I can't recall a time when I've experienced so many changes
at once."
Pringle, Gail. August 4, 1999. "My baby girl has conquered
my fears." NOW magazine, UK.